This poll from Christianity Today (https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2020/june-web-only/research-evangelicals-women-leaders-complementarian-preach.html) on what evangelicals think about women in leadership and preaching will hopefully be a bit of a jolt for some.
The thing is, it doesn’t matter what “evangelicals” say about what women should or shouldn’t be doing. It matters what God says. So, if you have been hoping to fit in, not even with the world, but merely with other self-described evangelicals, then you’ll need to get over that real quick. Step away from the people-pleasing and the lust for popularity among the religious.
We must remember that God’s ways are better. The way he’s told us to do things is loving and good for us and for His glory. Too many of us have bought into the line that if we tell it straight to women about how God says we aren’t supposed to teach or have authority over men (1 Timothy 2) or how we’re supposed to be workers at home (Titus 2), that we will squash women (not to mention, we will set them off).
But have you considered that telling them (and yourself) what God’s word says directly to them as women is actually loving them when it comes from a heart transformed to love - from a heart full of faith that God’s words are good?
Listen, I know people distort God’s plan. But God’s words are sufficient, and is "profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness" (2 Timothy 3:16). They are light in the darkness.
I beg you - don’t reject God’s word because it doesn’t suit your situation or acquiesce to God’s word because it does suit your situation. Love it. Be certain of it. Bank everything on it. You’ll look strange and crazy - even among “evangelicals” but you’ll have joy in the Lord. He is good and he does good!